There are few absolutes in this world but one I know for sure- Love never dies. The bonds of love we develop in this life continue even into the unseen world of death.  Love, after the death of a loved one emerges as Grief, it is a version of Love unleashed and contained in us that needs expression.  Grief is unpleasant at best and immobilizing at worst.  Grief possesses us, first intensely and ever present and then sneakily popping up on our unsuspecting heart triggered by moments we do not anticipate.  After my mother passed, I was in the grocery store in the cracker aisle staring at boxes when the Wave of Grief grabbed me and the tears flooded the aisle, -to this day I do not know why this triggered me, but it did- and I accept the tears and realize my heart needed this.  Our hearts are tender yet resilient.

Our relationships with each other change, from physical to Spiritual.  Spirit is who we are and always will be, physical is a gift we are given for a short time.  The beauty of Love is that it is in both- the thread that is always available.  Love transcends our humanness and Signs are always available to comfort us in our Greif, in our of loss.  Spirit reaches out to us in many ways- most people will identify with cardinals, feathers, coins, rainbows all appearing in out path.  More specific signs- songs that we shared, numbers of significant dates or times, random people saying words we need to hear- also happen and we are not imagining the connection- it is here because our worlds are just a breath away, a frequency away.

I have a friend who is deep within her world of Grief, she cannot come up for air, but she will someday.  For now I hold space for her and let her know she is not alone although she laments that she is more alone than the loneliest, her heart feels this, it needs to feel this, this is her journey.  I know her loved one waits patiently for her to come up for air, waiting and holding space for her as well, sending her Love and Signs if only she could see them, they are there.  Everyone processes loss differently, there is no right way, there is only our way.  But if I could leave you with a few honest thoughts, – Love never dies, the Connection never dies, we are beyond loved by those in Spirit and they are ever present in our lives….